Unfortunately I have suffered this horrific experience twice, infact this last time was this past week
:(. There is still a lot of grieving for me to do. Some may think that miscarriage is a private thing, and if the parent wants it to remain so, that is totally up to them. I feel though, that this topic should not be taboo, and yet it is...even know in 2018. How many people do you know talk about miscarriage? I bet not many! Yet if you suffer this and confide in someone, you will be shocked to see how many will reveal they too have suffered it. And no wonder, 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage!
What is so devastating about miscarriage is the fact that your body is supposed to keep your baby safe for 9 months. Add to the fact that most of the time there is nothing that you can do to prevent the loss from occurring...and not from lack of trying either.
My first miscarriage was shocking and so emotionally painful I wanted to die. I locked myself in my room and cried and cried. But no matter how I felt I still had other children and a husband who all still needed me. I had to find a way to begin the healing process, and this is something where you have to take all the time you need.
I found that making a memory box would help the process of healing and provide the comfort of knowing my baby would never be forgotten. I added poems, a letter, sewing items I made, my husband put our picture on a wooden heart and sealed it, and some items I bought, including a certificate of life. Of course doing these things is heartbreaking, but it is fulfilling. I go through these things still and I always tear up. I am now working on a new memory box for this baby. So far I have made everything I have. I made my own Certificate of Life, which brings me to my next thought.
I know there are many who are going through this agony, and they may not know they can order things on line for their own memory box, or maybe they can not afford to. So I am providing you all with a FREE Certificate of Life. You can download it as many times as you like and you can share it too, and you can give it to those who would like to use it. The only thing I ask is that you do not sell it, please. I really want to DO something for others suffering, and I don't have much money so I can't
start up anything, besides there are so many organizations out there anyway. This is one of the things I can do to help.
My heart goes out to all you beautiful momma's in the world suffering from the pain of losing a baby.
Till next time!
